Got recently acquainted with Brian Gorrell, australian, gay, and HIV positive. He’s in the middle of quite a spat with some pretentious members of Philippine "hay" society, notably Star Lifestyle columnists DJ Montano, Celine Lopez, and Tim Yap.
You guys probably know about this already, but you can read about the sordid affair here:
http://delfindjmontano.blogspot.com/
Brian’s story is a cautionary tale of dealing with fakes. I’ve had my fair share of fake people in my life, from my business to personal dealings.
I used to work at a place which was populated by a large number of fakes: a bank department (which is supposedly ironic since bankers ought to be known for their sincerity).
In that previous work life, I was surrounded with people who spent quite a lot of effort to appear:
1. like they were doing something; or
2. like they knew what they were doing
Of course, being someone who was actually both, it pissed me a great deal having to deal with these fakes on a daily basis.
Fortunately (perhaps due to the largesse of some unknown benevolent entity), things have a medium-happy (as medium-rare is to steaks) ending: I left that department, and most of my former fake officemates left the bank to work for a competitor bank, on higher salaries–perhaps the best testament of the power of fakedom.
That’s funny, I only remember them now, after reading Brian’s story above.
I’ve also dealt with fakes much earlier in my life. I studied in business school: which upon hindsight, is formal training for professional fakedom. What is a business graduate anyway but a person who knows a lot of little things about generally nothing in particular?
How I wish now that I took up something concise and formidable: like Philosophy, or a real science such as Psychology.
And as Shakespeare wrote: "the most unkindest cut of all":
I nearly became a fake myself. Nearly fell for the pretentious frame of mind, a strong belief in a false purpose, and a quiet compromise to bear with false individuals. To accept the fakedom and admit it to be true.
Almost. But not quite. That unknown benevolent entity made it sure I came to my senses in the nick of time.
Now, like an ex-smoker can’t bear the smell of secondary smoke, having a close shave with fakedom makes me eschew fake people even more.
I’ve developed a sense for them. Spider sense, ESP. I can see the fake people a mile away. I can spot them easy from a crowd. I can feel their presence.
What I’m trying to figure out now is what to do with them. I’ve been spectator to these fakes for so long, it has nearly numbed me beyond action. I will deal with you fakes very soon.
Normally I’d issue a warning. Tell fakes to be afraid, be very afraid. But fakes don’t feel fear because they don’t know what it means. They might pretend to sometimes, but they don’t have a clue.
Doesn’t matter though. In the end it will be sweet selfish satisfaction blowing away the fakes who never knew what hit them, even after the final blows are dealt. Fakes won’t acknowledge defeat even if they could spell it. Fakes won’t realize the end even if they could see it.
They see nothing, they feel nothing–nothing true. But when I am done, what they feel and what they are will at least be coincident. One little step to "no more fakes", "no more fakedom."
The world, my world, our world, will be infinitely better off having one less fake around.
Thanks Brian for your inspiration.